Thursday, 3 July 2014

Full disclosure or nah?

This topic trended on twitter recently and a good number of tweeps were totally against full disclosure of one's not so pretty past in relationships (as what you don’t know won’t hurt you), some were for partial disclosure (choose what to reveal and when) and others were all for full disclosure (take me as I am). 

Got me thinking and I am all for full disclosure even when I know such a move could come back and bite me. I believe it is better for a partner to accept me for who I am and what I have done or passed through in life.

We all have done and gone through things we are not very proud of, some beyond our control - true but what if your partner finds out later on? From another source? Wouldn’t that be a bigger issue? That is my line of thought. This is why I think it is better to tell it all.

That doesn’t mean I will vomit it all first time we meet. Nope, I’ll have to like the guy enough before I open up. At the risk of being left high and dry of course and I know this scares some people. There is also the risk of being judged and the occasional reference to the past? *sigh*

So, I vote for full disclosure with wisdom (but how you decide the wisdom part is your own to sort out) The truth is, as much as we want to be true to our partners, some people do not like to carry others’ baggage. I believe that if a person really wants to be with you, s/he will stick around; no matter the weight of your baggage. Better to get dumped by someone who isn’t ready to accept me (baggage and all) anyway. 

That will just be one more frog out of the way before Prince Charming comes along.
So, what do you think? Full disclosure or nah?


  1. I vote non disclosure. Let the past be the past pls.

  2. I vote half disclosure abeg. The remaining half will depend on if he is the type that can cope.

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    1. @Funmi, That's what I mean by full disclosure with wisdom oh. To avoid stories that touch the heart, wisdom is key.