It was Valentine’s day just a few days ago and I was a happy somebody.
Happy because I am a sucker for love, I love love…So much so that I have appointed myself the president of the Awwww Association.
Which meant on Val’s day, I was on duty, busy roaming the streets of the ‘gram, surfing my contacts’ WhatsApp status’ and I even found my way to the bird app in search for awww moments for which I awww-ed and awwwww-ed and smiled and was happy for the Val-ed.
But you know how this life is now, I also came across some servings of breakfast (if you don’t gerrit, forget abourrit) Some were hot and some were cold, coooold, which made me quite unhappy but I am hopeful for all those who were served; hopefully by next year, I will awwwwn with them (if you’re on this table, say amen!) as heartbreak isn’t cool at all and I’m sure we you all know a thing or two about this. (Wanna share?).
Back to love… love is a beautiful thing and good relationships are amazing and break-ups? They suck, which ever way they are served suck!
But I want to talk about a different kind of break-up today.
I want to talk about friendship break-ups.
Do like this ✋if you’ve been served this special kind of breakfast.
I am doing like this ✋with my full chest as it has happened to me.
Not once.
(Wipes lone tear)
Have you ever woken up one day and realize that, you have become strangers with your person? The one person whom you have shared laughs, secrets, cried together with, to and for? The one person who was your gist partner, who would go all FBI and gangster on any one who tried to mess with you, your gossip partner, the one whom you’ve shared so many meals with.
Like I said earlier, it has happened to me…
Not once…
(Wipes lone tear…again)
…and it hurt. It hurt because I don’t make friends as easily as others, so I hold my friends dear; my girls know this. Now, if you make it to my holy of holies (HOH)…sigh! Imagine a senior member of the HOH ghosting and becoming a stranger… ko da now!
I see all these quotes about how if you lose a friend, they were never your friend to begin with; I don’t agree because the good times were good, it was real and it was good and it was amazing and we had loads of fun; so I would rather believe that ‘some people are in your life for a time or purpose’ and when that is fulfilled, they move…you move (just like that 💃… see what i did there?)
Some broken friendships are fixed, broken up friends make up and are able to work through whatever issues they had (psssst Omofeba), some are back-ish but not where they used to be; some are just dead and gone and there is just no going back; which is also ok. So whatever level you are now, maybe accept it as it is, apologize if you are wrong, find out if maybe you did wrong and don’t even know it… that’s what I did; for closure: I guess. And I am glad I did, I am happy where we are. I am happy with the friends I have now and it is what it is!
So do you, if you want, how you want…
xoxo
PS. If you are reading this, I want you to know that I’ll always be here if you need me.
PSS.. I know I am cool like that.
