This topic trended on twitter recently and a good
number of tweeps were totally against full disclosure of one's not so pretty
past in relationships (as what you don’t know won’t hurt you), some were for
partial disclosure (choose what to reveal and when) and others were all for
full disclosure (take me as I am).
Got me thinking and I am all for full disclosure
even when I know such a move could come back and bite me. I believe it is
better for a partner to accept me for who I am and what I have done or passed
through in life.
We all have done and gone through things we are not
very proud of, some beyond our control - true but what if your partner finds
out later on? From another source? Wouldn’t that be a bigger issue? That is my
line of thought. This is why I think it is better to tell it all.
That doesn’t mean I will vomit it all first time we
meet. Nope, I’ll have to like the guy enough before I open up. At the risk of
being left high and dry of course and I know this scares some people. There is
also the risk of being judged and the occasional reference to the past? *sigh*
So, I vote for full disclosure with wisdom (but how
you decide the wisdom part is your own to sort out) The truth is, as much
as we want to be true to our partners, some people do not like to carry others’
baggage. I believe that if a person really wants to be with you, s/he will
stick around; no matter the weight of your baggage. Better to get dumped by someone
who isn’t ready to accept me (baggage and all) anyway.
That will just be one more frog out of the way
before Prince Charming comes along.
So, what do you think? Full disclosure or nah?
