Friday, 31 October 2014


I honestly do not know why this is relevant.

I know about four.

Turn up money must be made!



I wont argue.

I will begin to count.

Thursday, 30 October 2014


Yay! I got the award....
I have seen this logo on a number of blogs and I had wondered what it was all about. Well, I read through and I thought what a cool idea
And what is way cooler? Well, I got the award also!
Yay me! *wipes lone tear, waves at the cheering crowd
Thank you. Thank you. I am indeed honored. 

The award is passed on from sister blogger to another and I agree with TIBS' line of thought on the award on building a network of ladies....who knows where a great friendship would start from?

So, the award comes with a set of rules. It is a serious something oh!

1. Thank the blogger who nominated (awarded) you, linking back to their site. 
2. Put the award logo on your blog.
3. Answer their ten questions. 
4. Make up ten new questions for your nominees.
5. Nominate 10 bloggers
The aim: to help ladies accept every part of their bodies and personalities.

I was nominated and awarded by the lovely Amaka. She blogs @ Thank you my dear ajuwaya!

Amaka did not ask ten questions but she asked a biiiig question as she was asked on her own nomination form. (Did I not tell you it is a serious something?)

Her question: "Tell us about a part of you that you struggled with(maybe a habit, nose, shape, leg etc) and how you over came the fear......

My answer: I struggled hard with my dentition. Some of my teeth (the upper incisors) grew out from one root (my friend called it squatting teeth, smh) and in primary school, I had the squatters removed. It was a painful experience and my mouth was swollen for days. I believe professionally it is referred to as dens in dents

The squatters were removed and the dentist told me to constantly use my tongue to push the inner teeth and they would eventually align. Hmmm, my people, I pushed and pushed and pushed for years, they are still slightly backwards. I thought there was something wrong with me. I cried and cried because my teeth would not fit in a perfect row

I felt ugly and I would not smile or laugh out loud....anything to expose my teeth was a NO! And I grew up not smiling a lot. I have had comments from people asking me to smile. In fact, one day an Okada rider looked at me and said "abeg sister smile small na" I felt really horrible. I believe this has a lot to do with why people think I am a major snob when they first meet me. 

Well, I am all grown now and even though I still do not smile much, I am less conscious of the space there and I have found out that some people do not even notice! So why have I been killing myself over it?!

Do I still hate my dentition? Yes, I do. But it doesn't affect me like it did anymore. Now I smile without caring (though I am not big on smiling). So yea, this is what I struggled with in life.   

Now I will like to nominate the following awesome sister bloggers and I will stick to Amaka's way and throw back the same question to you all.

DURU  (Yes young man, I nominate you on behalf of Jilda).

There we go. These are the blogs I have nominated. Please follow the rules and let us appreciate our favorite blogs. I know some that I would have put up have already receive there nominations. Congrats to y'all!

*Vira walks off stage, wipes another lone tear and waves to y'all*

Tuesday, 28 October 2014

Lyrics of the day: Keep your head up.

When your heart is free
Its easy to make a decision
When your head is clear
You know you have good judgment
But when your life is turning topsy turvey
And you have no reasons for whats disturbing
Remember these words my father said to me

He said: Keep your head up dont say you love him
(Keep your head)
Walk away from all that has hurt you
(Find your power)
Find your power you know your strong
Take that step and it will help you along

When your mind's at peace
(at peace)
Sleep comes so very peacefully
When you start to dream
They are wonderful and so very sweet
But when your life is turning topsy turvey
And you have no answers for whats disturbing
Remember these words a preacher said to me

He said: Keep your head up dont say you love him
(Keep your head up)
Walk away from all that is hurting
(Find your power)
Find your power you know your strong
(Take that step)
Make that step and it will help you along (2x)

Why give up this time you can win
(You can win)
Why give up this battle is within
(Is within)
Why stay when you don't know what he's gonna do
Why choose him when its time to choose you

Keep your head up dont say you love him
Walk away from all that is hurting
Find your power you know your strong
Make that step it will help you along (2x)

Keep your head up (6x)
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Monday, 27 October 2014

I am breaking up with Abuja tailors!

Hiya everyone! How did your weekend go? Mine was great! My darling cousin is in town and I spent a lot of time with her. She is always fun to be with! 

So, about today's topic, I have decided to pack all the materials (ankara mostly) I have and send home for my local tailor to sew for me. My brother laughed and called me a cheap skate. Do I care? NOPE!!!! You know why I am doing that? Because I have decided that Abuja tailors will not force me into bankruptcy!
Imagine buying  material for N5,000 or less and you sew for N15,000. Is there any wisdom in that biko? I have thought about this long and hard and I believe my decision was borne out of wisdom. Can I back that up? I am sure I can. See, I am from the North and those tailors there are quite creative so I wont worry about looking for styles to give them. Secondly and most importantly, they are CHEAP!! 

The last time I went home, I had to sew ashoebi for a wedding the next day and my mother called her tailor around 5pm. So, express service right? I began to calculate how much I would pay for it and I was grumbling about how I am not even close to the bride and my mother is trying to finish my money for express sewing....well, the guy came and charged N2,500 for express!

Hold up! N2,500?  I will be wearing rubbish to that wedding I thought to myself. Well, guess what? I was wrong. He brought my dress early the next morning and it was beautiful! He even added some serenseren on it oh! I ended up giving him more than he asked for. I was too happy I did not have to break bank for that.

So you see why it is wiser for me to send them to the local tailor right? Last time I made blouse and wrapper here in Abuja, the tailor charged N8,500. I almost had a mini stroke. I asked if it is just the blouse that cost that much because I believe I  could have easily hemmed the remaining material myself to get my wrapper oh. I let that pass and looked for another tailor who charged N8,000 for skirt and blouse and I thought that one would be better but I was soo disappointed that I have not gone back to get the last pair. None of those I collected even had any extra serenseren on them. Another tailor messed my beautiful wrapper up and still took my money. 

So you see why I have given up on Abuja tailors and why I am forced to break up with them? I will send those stuff home and patiently wait for the best results at the cheapest rate and not care that my brother thinks I am a cheapskate. 

Have yourselves a lovely week ahead.

Friday, 24 October 2014

I am so not a crafty, DIY lover....I will leave that for TOSYN and MOBY. I prefer to see it done and get it. Shikenan, no hassles. But I came across some cool stuff and thought to share in case you are one of those very practical people.

I think they are cool enough that I am planning to try out a couple.

plastic spoons and spray paint

Y'all can take me now or later.

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Ye or nay?

Hiya everyone. It has been a crazy week for me. I was ill and in the hospital, home now, still resting, recuperating and thankful to be back here. Thank y'all who kept checking up even when I did not have a post up. I appreciate you all.

So, I came across this quote today and it got me thinking. I actually do agree with what it says and I feel it is  unfair to the ones who love more in relationships. Why should the one who loves more suffer for it? Is it a crime to be in love with another? 

OK, I need to calm down, I don't even know why I am letting this annoy me so much. But if you have had a friend cry to you because they aren't getting back the love and attention they are investing in a relationship, it makes you mad. How then do you tell them to stay away and see what happens without them thinking 'this one na winch'?

Seriously though, can we just learn to appreciate those who give us all the love in them or just be bold enough to let them go if you wont go all in?
Remember, what goes around, comes around. Karma is looking for whose arse to bite. Don't let it be you. Be bold enough to do the right thing.
Do you agree with the quote? Ye or nay? Please share your opinions.


Saturday, 18 October 2014

Do You Know?

The proper way to pour a drink... You know those situations where you end up with sticky fingers cleaning up everywhere just over a glass of juice? It can be avoided.

Like seriously?
I'm usually in a hurry to get a hold of my money, why on earth would I spend so much time on a signature? I totally agree Lol "no money"

Friday, 17 October 2014

Benefits Of Drinking Water


SHARED on how I do not like to drink water and I got a few responses from people like me (side eyeing ZOE and ESTHER) who do not like to drink water also.

The thing is I have always heard and have been told by friends and even in the hospital to drink more water than I do. Well, I have decided to heed to the Dr's advice and I will begin to drink more water right after this pack of ribena. But before I start, I should at least try to find out why all the "drink more water" talk right?

So here are Top 10 Benefits of Drinking Water: Don't Medicate, Hydrate! as seen on Google.
1. Increases Energy & Relieves Fatigue – Since your brain is mostly water, drinking it helps you think, focus and concentrate better and be more alert. As an added bonus, your energy levels are also boosted!

2. Promotes Weight Loss – Removes by-products of fat, reduces eating intake (by filling up your tummy if consumed prior to meals), reduces hunger (hello natural appetite suppressant!), raises your metabolism and has zero calories!

3. Flushes Out Toxins – Gets rid of waste through sweat and urination which reduces the risk of kidney stones and UTI’s (urinary tract infections).

4. Improves Skin Complexion – Moisturizes your skin, keeps it fresh, soft, glowing and smooth. Gets rid of wrinkles. It’s the best anti-aging treatment around!
Did you know?
5. Maintains Regularity – Aids in digestion as water is essential to digest your food and prevents constipation.

6. Boosts Immune System – A water guzzler is less likely to get sick. And who wouldn’t rather feel healthy the majority of the time? Drinking plenty of water helps fight against flu, cancer and other ailments like heart attacks.

7. Natural Headache Remedy – Helps relieve and prevent headaches (migraines & back pains too!) which are commonly caused by dehydration.

8. Prevents Cramps & Sprains - Proper hydration helps keep joints lubricated and muscles more elastic so joint pain is less likely.
For real?
9. Puts You in a Good Mood – When the body is functioning at its best, you will feel great and be happy!

10. Save Money! -Even if you choose bottled/filtered water, it’s STILL cheaper than that high sugar and fat-filled latte!

Make it fun by adding cucumber or watermelon to your water.
You can thank me now or later but for now,


Thursday, 16 October 2014

20 Random facts about me.

Hey people! How are we doing? The weekend is almost here!!! yay!
So I was tagged by FUNMI REESE and MS COOKIE to share 20 random facts     about and the first thing I thought was 20 ke? Do I know 20 random stuff about myself? Anyway, I decided to give it a try. Here we go...

 I have always had a thing for clouds. Yes, clouds. I always ask for a windowseat when ever I fly, just to stare at the clouds and fantasize. I have dreamed of touching them and holding a ball of clouds. So imagine my pain when I found out it was impossible to hold it. I still picture myself floating in clouds….some dreams never die.

   I pick out left handed people anytime, anywhere. I do not know why, let us just    say  I have a leftie radar. Hopefully, some day I will find out why.

      I love the colour green.     

       I am lactose intolerant. (TMI?)

   I do not like drinking water. I can actually go a whole day without            drinking      water. Yes, I know it is bad, I will do something about it.
               I hate my dentition. :( 

               I lurv me some Idris Elba.

         My grandma has 29 grandkids from 8 kids.
         Most people’s first impression about me is that I'm a snob. I think it is because I     do not smile a lot....thanks to the hated dentition.

         I have a headache right now….

 I       I have a love/hate relationship with my edges….not the type John Legend was           talking about, mine is with my hair. I love them, they hate me so I am almost bald         from the front. I     will like to blame that on badagry and Ghana braids.

               I like to think I am a bad arse dancer….in reality, I suck
         I wore glasses from primary 3 till I dumped them after my university.
              I had wanted to be a secretary when I grow up…..there is a story behind this          choice.
         I did my 2nd and 3rd ear piercings myself. Yea, I am bad arse like that.
         I am shit scared of lizards.
         I honestly didn't count so I don't know how many I have written.
        And with these random facts of mine, I believe I have been able to prove to you       that I am really just a boring somebody. 

         Now, I would like to tag ZOE, YOURS TRULYIMPERFECT MUSE and   all of       you reading this post. Please feel free to share at least one random fact about       yourselves with me.
         PS: I am also tagging my dear dear ajuwaya AMAKA. Tag along

Monday, 13 October 2014

It Is International No Bra Day!


Set the tatas free!!!!!
So I just found out that today, October 13th is International No Bra Day. First off, I am angry that I just found out. Why didn't anybody tell me?! Y'all allowed me come out of the house with a bra when the tatas could have easily been hanging free and happy right now?

I am pained mhan!!!

So from what I hear (read), it is all for breast cancer awareness and as much as I do not understand how going about with the breastises uncaged helps this cause, I am all for it! Anything to bring awareness to this cause, I am game.

I decided to read up on this and I saw another date; July 9th (but hey, everyday is good for breast cancer awareness).....And I could not come up with anything more so, I don't know where or how it came about. side eyeing some men.

Pssst, A cup-ers, you know you are the real heroes here right? With the everyday awareness ish going on with y'all.

Guys, you aren't left out of this. Join in supporting this cause, you can wear anything purple to show your support.

  "few things in life feel better than taking your bra off at the end of a long day"
Truer words have never been spoken. So if you get to do it for awareness, go for it!!!!!

Check HERE for steps on basic self exam.

Saturday, 11 October 2014

Another reminder....

Please ladies, check your breasts regularly!
Breast cancer is real.
Checking wont cost you anything.
Remember to speak up when you find any abnormalities.
A lump does not necessarily mean you have cancer, it could just be a growth that needs to be removed.
It could also be just a growth that medication could shrink and it will disappear.
Please remember to check at least once a month.

A blog visitor reached out to me and said she found a lump after reading the last REMINDER I put up here. I am glad to know that at least one person took it seriously and checked.

She has seen a Doctor and hopefully it is nothing but just a lump that will shrink with the medication she was placed on. Please, say a prayer for her.

And remember to check at least once a month.

Tuesday, 7 October 2014

Back to the Buj!!

Yes! I am back to the Abuja!!!
I was in Calabar to visit my aunty and take care of some bidness (you know what I mean?). I had a really great time with my little cousins, my aunt is a big big blessing to me and I am so lucky to have her in my life. 

So I was sitting in the plane, forming sleep because I didn’t want the guy beside me to disturb me as per fine girl. Seriously though, he had actually started talking plenty and I just was not in the mood. I heard the food trolley pass by. I was glad in my spirit as I had not eaten anything all day. 

I began to plan what I’d take. I rehearsed how I’d say “water please” even when there will be all those other stuff…. you know the whole healthy lifestyle thing right? Well, the trolley came, the host(?) just handed me half a cuppa’a water! Yes, those tiny disposable cups oh!  I almost said no bros, I want coke but I decided to look at the trolley to really make a decision. That’s how I saw that they had just water to serve us. Like really? Just water? Arik air, really?! And there was a dry slice of cake. *rme* Next time I will just enter cross lines and know that I will only be getting water.

Ehen, that’s that about the flight. I got to Calabar and I was eager to come on here and gist you guys all about the wickedness of Arik and my phone wouldn’t even behave…no, it wasn’t my phone, the network there was terrible! Kilode? It was almost impossible to check my blog. I made sure I kept trying to check other blogs but for where? So I gave up on my 2nd day there. Beautiful eagle, how do you do it?!

Ehen, then it was sallah day and I sat patiently waiting for the good muslim brothers and sisters to bring meat ba? Hmmmm at about 5pm, I began to realize what a mistake coming to Calabar for sallah was. It occurred to me that all the Northerners and other muslims there must have traveled ‘home’ for sallah. I almost wept thinking to myself “so this is how I won’t see meat to eat this sallah ehn?” And that is how Saturday rolled by, no sallah meat for me. Plenty heart break for me.

Well, the Good Lord saw my heart and how badly I wanted sallah meat and by Sunday evening, I heard the sweetest voice say “salama allaikum”, I smiled because I knew it was here. Yes! I finally got sallah meat….*skelewus* no scratch that. I do not skelewu. But mhen, my joy knew no bounds. 

I did not really go anywhere, I was indoors most of the time. I did make it to the suya joint a lot though. Good thing the aunty and all her kids are just like me in that aspect. My maternal family members can eat meat for Africa!

So anyway, I am back to the Buj, I have missed y’alls. I have missed being here…..And yea, if you still have sallah meat, I am very available to come chop.

A big thank you to all of you kept visiting even when I had nothing up for you....Let us blame the internet providers in Calabar ehn?
Please keep coming oh, I appreciate y'all real big.