Monday 1 September 2014

Office Romance?



"Despite the common wisdom that it's a bad idea and can have a disastrous impact on one's career, office romances are alive and well. And, according to a new survey, most people are willing to deal with them at work. In fact the survey showed that three-quarters of respondents worldwide believe that romantic relationships at work are not necessarily a problem."

So this is real, this is something that actually happens in work places *side eyeing Ms Reese*. The thing is as much as it works out pretty well for some people, it doesn't for others and personally, this is where i have a problem with work place relationships. After the romance is over, what do we do when we jam for stairs or for meeting? Running into each other is going to be inevitable. And it will hurt more for the party that was dumped. is still into the relationship.

There are about four married couples in my office, same building and all and it works for them (i assume) and there are others whose relationships did not turn out so great and of course we got to hear gist about who did what and how who isn't a nice person and generally, most of these relationships have become topics for gossip at work. Who doesn't like a little gossip here and there to while away time?  

There was this time I had my eyes on a colleague and  thought about the possibility of an office romance. I had pictured how cute it would be to come to work together, go for lunch and leave the office together while holding hands and giggling over how much in love we would be. Plus i figured it would be cool to go get a quick foot rub in the next office whenever I felt tired.
kindda like this

Then I thought hard about it and i decided "nah, that isn't for me" because if and when we have a fight, everybody will know. There wont be any of those cute lunches and foot rubs biko. And everyone will know there is trouble in paradise. Uh uhm.... I wont be topic for gossip here.



And I think I would need my space, I would want to meet and share office 'gist' and all. That wont happen if we work together now will it? I also wouldn't want to walk on egg shells around other colleague so as not to 'offend' office boo somehow. So basically, my opinion on this is if your office allows it, then WHATEVER ROCKS YOUR BOAT! or raises your skirt but it isn't for me.

Please share your opinions on this or any work place romance experiences you have. Remember Michelle met Barack at work, Merideth Grey and McDreamy still work together and who wouldn't want a relationship like theirs?. 




10 comments:

  1. I like the gossip part of this. No experience here but I kind of have my eyes on someone.

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    1. You have your eyes on someone, go for it!

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  2. Not for me either. Too much wahala.

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  3. Eiiiiiiiih! Vira haf killed me oh. I never begin to date the guy oh.
    Seriously!yesterday he was like he never ever thought he would ever think about dating someone in the office. Which is the same reason I am sorta still on the fence.
    Its the gossip part I hate. People will always gossip but I hate giving them something to gossip about.
    The only good thing is that my Work place allows it. We have about 8 married couples and countless flings and relationships have happened.

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    1. Sisi mi, your matter n join here oh. You guys aren't in the same office jor.
      You wont meet on the stair case or anything biko. Different branches is doable so go on and tell us about your 1st date soon.

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    2. I had to come and reread this post like someone with new eyes lol.
      Jamming for staircase,lunch,and gossip suddenly has new meaning.hehehehe.
      Now you know why that first date still dey far.i hate gossip ehn. Especially office gossip.

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    3. Lol! Sisi mi, you might end up in a LDR so jamming for stair case shouldn't be your wahala but how to bond thru the distance.
      My friend, make up your mind for us. Yes, I said us cz I am a stakeholder in the 1st date.

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  4. i've never liked office romance jor. there was a guy i started chatting a lot with and my office then is like a bull pen where everyone can see everyone. asap, people started calling us names and though i kinda liked him a bit sha, i just didn't go down that lane. there were other factors sha but my office-gosssip-mill no be here o. they can just wreck one's career with the stories they make up. - Ada

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  5. hahahahahahahahahahah @ or raises your skirt... hehehehe You bad gan oh! now that had me laughing like mad! Okay... first off, i don't think its healthy to be all Lovey dovey with a colleague oh! i think its just inappropriate. As a guy I support one night stands and all, but not LOVE! Haba! They both will get all sensitive and all, and that would lead to less productivity. I believe in the never mix Business and Pleasure philosophy, so when I am having Pleasure i mean business.. Love + Work+ Same Office( Branch)= Kabooomm and I mean Big Explosive Kaboomm.. I am against it eh.

    In other news... Thanks for stopping by the Young and Confused Blog.. Your comment made me smile, cause **Whispers i have been stalking your comments @ Funmis's blog + It felt good to have a new Ghen ghen lady around. Soooo Please dont go eh! I cant stand no run away lofer again :( Pleassee. Oya in Banky W's voice Dont break whats left of my heart... :)

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    1. Hahaha I won't run away eh. Adding you to my list asap!

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